Reputation // Character

"The circumstances amid which you live determine your reputation; the truth you believe in determines your character.

Reputation is what you're supposed to be; character is what you are.

Reputation is the photograph; character is the face.

Reputation comes over one from without; character grows up from within.

Reputation is what you have when you go to a new community; character is what you have when you go away.

Your reputation is learnt within an hour; your character does not come to light for a year.

Reputation is made in a moment; character is built in a lifetime.

Reputation grows like a mushroom; character grows like an oak tree.

A single newspaper report gives you your reputation; a life of toil gives you your character.

Reputation makes you rich or makes you poor; character makes you either happy or miserable.

Reputation is what men say about you on your tombstone; character is what angels say about you before the throne of GOD."

Just a beautiful quote I came across a few years ago when I was much younger and decided to share it, for I felt people needed a reminder of this, now so more than ever.

Beijos xo

A Letter To The Hearts Of My Generation

A Letter To The Hearts of My Generation Pt.3

"Throughout the years you lose friends, family and lovers. Loss is inevitable. It's a rough reality of life, but it doesn't have to be all bad cause there's a lot to learn from loss. Life's journey is a marathon; everybody that starts with you won't have what it takes to finish with you. One of the toughest things to accept in this life is that people grow apart. Sometimes you have to love somebody enough to let them go. That may be easier said than done, but just because it isn't easy doesn't mean it isn't necessary. If you're trying to go places in life, you can't keep following the people who are content with just going anywhere. You need to be around people who have a sense of purpose and direction. We're all impressionable, so if you want to get ahead, make sure you're starting the process off by putting yourself around the right influences. It's simple math; if people aren't adding value to your life, then they need to be subtracted. If the people around you aren't helping you dream bigger, inspire you to work harder or motivating you to do better, then you're in the wrong circle. When you care about something, you protect and cherish it, your care for it makes it better. Don't avoid having expectations, you should expect the people who claim they care about you to show it, and in more ways than one. If you show me somebody you feel you can't expect anything from, I'll show you somebody you don't need in your life. Be aware of those who claim to care more, when their actions show that they could care less. Some people are around, just to be around. Stop letting people just "chill" in your life and take up space. Make sure their presence has a purpose. Great people can't come into your life if you keep allowing average people to block the door. Sometimes you just need to remove them. If they don't see your vision, they'll compromise your mission. You can't always control who you lose in life, but you can control who you hold onto but just make sure they're worth it. Stop going back and looking for closure in situations that have already closed you out. Keep your eyes on the prize, keep your heart open, and keep God first."
- Rob Hill Sr.

Rob Hill Sr. is a writer, poet and motivational speaker. I typed this quote from an audio mixtape of his that I unfortunately couldn't upload, which I listen to everyday for a bit of motivation, "The Heart Healer". Do check out his videos on Youtube as well :)
Please spread the message, somebody out there needs to read this :)

Beijos xoxo

No Scrubs.

One of my all time favourite songs. I think it was probably the first song I sang to when I was younger. :D Enjoy.

YOU Are The Circle

Ever heard the saying, "You are what you eat"?? Yes, if you eat green peppers, you ARE a green pepper. No? Not literally? Oh, okay..
Food connoisseurs and health nuts would understand that to the bone. Basically, your body is a result of what you put into in. And it's true.

What about who you are as a person? Your character, habits and vices. Have you ever thought about what or whom influences that? Yes, you can sit there and claim that no one influences you and that you are your own person, aren't we all? Realistically, we're all impressionable to some extent. Question is, how easily impressionable are you?
Are you the born-again that surrounds oneself with naysayers? The virgin that rides it out with girls that trade sex for 'monetary security'? The guy in a relationship taking advice from his whole crew - who all happen to be single?

"YOU ARE YOUR SURROUNDINGS 

HONEY BOO BOO!"

That circle/clique/crew/gang that you follow? Drink, party, paint the town red with? Yes, that one. It plays a major role in shaping the person you are and become. Be conscience of the people you surround yourself with because sometimes they may not necessarily be bad people, but THEIR morals, vices, principles and habits might as well not necessarily help you in being a better person. Not everyone has the best intentions, especially not in this era, so it surely must take a few trial and errors. And it's honestly a fine line to walk when it comes to sifting out "rotten apples", because no one wants to judge or be judged, and a versatile group of characters did somebody a little good somewhere out there. Right?

"Your outlook upon life, your estimate of yourself, your estimate of your value are largely colored by your environment. Your whole career will be modified, shaped, molded by your surroundings, by the character of the people with whom you come in contact with every day." - ORISON SWEET MARDEN

I don't "roll with the crew", I don't have a clique that I necessarily hang with. If anything at all, some people call me a loner. And I'm okay with that, but that doesn't mean I don't have friends. I have very few characters in my life, and I try to learn something from every single one of them, anything that would make me a better being. As Beyonce put it, "I'm known to walk alone/ But I'm alone for a reason.". I don't have it all in the bag though, as I type this, I'm learning something too. So I could drag on and on about how your circle influences you, but I never intended for this to be a long post, I'll save that for next time, yes? :)  just a random thought I had, one that I hope evokes a lot of thought when it comes to your life.

Beijos xoxo

Scratch The Surface

So A friend of mine mentioned that she likes how private I am, but that I was at times too reserved and made it difficult for people to get to know me. Genuine nice people. I guess she was right, cause I generally don't talk to many people, and I have this wall up all the time. I have nothing to hide, I just don't trust. So I decided to put a little of myself out there with this exercise. It's "100 QUESTIONS" that I answered 4 years ago on Facebook. So I copied it, and only changed the answers. So I'm "scratching my surface" so you guys can get a little peek of who I am.. :)